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How to Succeed and Never Fail
So, how can you succeed online without ever experiencing the feeling of failure?
Is that possible?
Let's find out...
What are you currently working on? What are you trying to accomplish with your online business right now? Do you have a goal that you're trying to accomplish?
Let's look at the two possibilities.
When you accomplish your goal, what has really happened?
You've set your goal and you've successfully accomplished it. You feel good about yourself. Your self-esteem is higher. You're off to the next project.
The formula looks like this:
Set Goal + Accomplishment = Success
When you fail to accomplish your goal, what has really happened?
You've set your goal, but you've failed to accomplish it. You don't feel good about yourself. You start to have negative thoughts about yourself. Your self-esteem is lower.
The formula looks like this:
Set Goal - Accomplishment = Failure
How can we fix this so you never experience the feeling of failure?
Let's explore the possibilities.
Even though you didn't accomplish your goal, did you learn anything from it? What do you think was the biggest reason why you didn't accomplish it? What was the problem that stopped you?
Whatever it was, it was something that you would have not learned otherwise. Don't you agree?
Hence, the formula now becomes:
Set Goal - Accomplishment = Failure + Lesson Learned
Now that you've discovered the reason that caused you to fail, dig up some resources and gather some intelligence that would help you find the solution or solutions for the problem that stopped you from accomplishing your goal.
Armed with this solution or solutions for the problem, you now enjoy a double chance of accomplishing your goal.
Go at it again and DO NOT REPEAT the same mistake.
Let's just say that you have failed to accomplish your goal again.
What do you think was the biggest reason why you didn't accomplish it again? What did you learn from this second failure? Was it another problem that stopped you?
Whatever it was, it was something that you would have not learned otherwise.
The formula now looks like this:
Set Goal - Accomplishment = Failure + 2 Lessons Learned
Again, look for more resources and gather more intelligence that would help you find the solution or solutions for this new problem that stopped you from accomplishing your goal. And then go at it again but DO NOT REPEAT the previous two mistakes.
Let's just say that you have failed for the 3rd time.
The formula looks like this:
Set Goal - Accomplishment = Failure + 3 Lessons Learned
Now, the number of lessons learned doesn't really matter. Does it?
As long as you're not repeating the same mistakes over and over, you're always gaining a different experience. So let's eliminate the number from the formula. The expression "Lessons Learned" is already in plural form so the number in front of it is not really needed.
So the formula now looks like this:
Set Goal - Accomplishment = Failure + Lessons Learned
Are you seeing what I'm seeing? Have you really failed?
You haven't accomplished your goal yet but you've accomplished something else that you would have not accomplished otherwise. What have you accomplished?
You've gained a first hand experience. A very valuable experience. Yes, you haven't accomplished your goal yet, but you've learned a very valuable lesson or lessons that you would have not learned otherwise.
You know, you can learn from your good experience and teach others what to do, but you can also learn from your bad experience and teach others what not to do.
Have you ever seen books titled: "The 10 deadliest mistakes in ......" or "The 5 things you must not do ...." or "Six Marketing Mistakes" and such?
As long as you're not repeating the same mistakes over and over, you're accomplishing a tremendous wealth of badly needed wisdom gained from a first hand experience that you need for a continuous success.
So the formula actually looks like this:
Set Goal - Accomplishment = Lessons Learned
You WILL accomplish your goal through a constant persistence. But don't forget your lessons learned from each failure. Each lesson learned is an accomplishment of its own. It's your checkpoint.
You've gained an understanding from your first hand experience that you were going a wrong way. You need to take different roads. If you continue on the same road (making the same mistake over and over), you might never arrive to your goal.
But when you constantly fine tune yourself after each failed attempt, constantly seek a solution for every problem and apply that solution in your next attempt, you would eventually accomplish your goal.
Each failed attempt is a baby step, an accomplishment and a step closer to your day that you would start walking.
© Steve Dimeck, webmaster and author. His recently published ebook "The Success Maze" provides an "Apt solution" (in the words of Neil Shearing) for people who want to succeed online but feel a bit lost in the online "Maze." Free details at: http://www.thesuccessmaze.com
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Energy + Expectations + Perseverance = Success! Being energetic and creating reserves of energy are essential for success. If your energy is depleted, you do not have the stamina to carry out the plans for your success. One way to create energy is by taking extremely good care of yourself - even being selfish with your needs! If you support a healthy, energetic, life-affirming style, than you can continue working towards the expectations you have for yourself. One way to identify whether or not your expectations are realistic is to take a piece of paper and make two columns. On the left side, write your expectation. On the right side, write how you might accomplish that. You do have the ability to reach your own expectations, and each one of them needs its own plan. When you look at the columns, you may recognize that some of the expectations are not realistic and that in order for you retain your energy and persevere to the final outcome, the items may need to be adjusted. Perseverance is continuing firmly on your path, regardless of unexpected challenges. If you believe in yourself, and are committed to your processes, you will solve every conceivable quandary or roadblock that appears. You know what the rewards will be if you persevere with your plan. 5. Strong Mission Statement + Plan of Action + Focus = Success! Your mission in life is simply your purpose - and your purpose, your mission. You've heard the saying, "If you don't know where you're going, that's exactly where you'll end up - nowhere!" Mission statements act as a rudder for your entrepreneurial-ship. When you know exactly what you want and how you're going to get there, you can make better decisions along the way knowing that all of your steps must support the mission. If questions arise and you're not sure of the answer, or direction, look to your mission statement to see if it supports the quandary. OK, everything is in place: your vision is clarified, you're feeling passionate about the path you're on, you are connected to your own flow, you're energized and focused, your mission is clear and NOW - you're ready to execute the "plan"! Plans of action do not have to be ten pages long. Your plan is whatever you want it to be - however, you must have one if you want to proceed firmly on your way and reach the pinnacle of your success. A simple plan can consist of lists: i.e. your business name and legal entity (LLC, C or S Corp, sole proprietor etc.), accountant (essential for cash/flow analyses), your mission, administrative needs, budget, competitor research, services you offer, advisory team members...and so forth. There are hundreds of books on the market to help you specifically with business plans. The goal is to move into action at whatever pace you choose to set and keep a steady course to completion. Oh yes, focus again! You can have it all - one focussed step a time! copyright by Sharon Hooper, Commit To Your Success, LLC
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